My mom is always bringing up sex in our conversations. She says she's trying to educate me but it's really embarrassing. I feel like I know everything I need to know and will make good decisions when it comes to having sex. How do I convince her of this?
– Allie*

While some families can talk comfortably about sex, many can't. Even if your mom is OK with the subject, you might not be. It's hard to tell from your question, but your mom might be bringing up sex as a way to try to bond with you. She also might be worried about you, which is normal for any parent. Figuring out why she keeps bringing up sex can help you plan your response.

The simplest (though not always easiest) thing is to ask her if she's concerned about your sexual health. If she is, simply reassure her by telling her what you know — and informing her you know all about proper protection. If her answer is "No, I'm just trying to keep our relationship strong," you can still reassure her — and figure out a bonding experience that's a little less awkward.

And as awkward and embarrassing as it is to talk about sex, your mom is trying. Not every parent does.

For more information, check out these articles:
Talking to Your Parents - or Other Adults
About Birth Control: What You Need to Know
About Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)
Abstinence
Virginity: A Very Personal Decision

Reviewed by: Larissa Hirsch, MD
Date reviewed: May 2007

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