I'm concerned about my 13-year-old niece. Her mother committed suicide and she is blaming herself. How can I help her to deal with her mother's death?
– Lola

Talking with your niece and encouraging her to share her feelings can be a big help. Let her know that it's not her fault. While it's natural to feel guilty and to wonder if there's anything that could have been said or done to prevent it, her mother's suicide wasn't the result of anything your niece did. It's also natural to feel some anger at what happened — and even some embarrassment.

Dealing with a parent's death is terribly difficult for anyone. Your niece needs your understanding and support. If possible, she should talk with a mental health professional, such as a psychologist who is experienced at working with teens. Her doctor can help her find someone appropriate to talk to.

For more information, check out this article:
How to Help Your Child Deal With Death
For Teens: Death and Grief

Reviewed by: Larissa Hirsch, MD
Date reviewed: May 2008

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